tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post6710079967071855467..comments2023-10-09T08:49:54.077-07:00Comments on The Deal with Disability: Not a piece of furniture.Evahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03451779602919205449noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-52196649969337785952012-07-15T21:29:28.378-07:002012-07-15T21:29:28.378-07:00what drives me crazy is when i am acting just the ...what drives me crazy is when i am acting just the same as anyone else for years--being productive, happy, expressing myself articulately, etc.--and then i find out i have been friended 'for charity'. what?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-32427321048997293912010-09-21T01:22:33.465-07:002010-09-21T01:22:33.465-07:00Anna said: "Because despite the fact that he&...Anna said: "Because despite the fact that he's 6'10" tall (and thus a good 5'8" when seated), and the wheelchair is a monster, people completely ignore him"<br /><br />Well personally I am very shy and I tend to "ignore" strangers in general, unless someone speaks to me first or I have no other option but to interact with them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-30794334841211116212009-09-25T05:10:31.117-07:002009-09-25T05:10:31.117-07:00This video makes me think of my last job as an aid...This video makes me think of my last job as an aide to a woman with CP. The filthy looks I got when we went to the gym for the second time and I didn't help my client with the doors! <br />The client preferred to go out and do things by herself if she could, so we had to find out whether she could open all the gym doors when there was no-one else around. But people would keep leaping to her Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-36684758678796152642009-09-15T05:47:14.000-07:002009-09-15T05:47:14.000-07:00I clearly understand your frustration, but this is...I clearly understand your frustration, but this is not just because you are in a wheelchair. Also not just confined to where you live.<br><br>I stay well out of my town (except for today, eek), because of the tide of ill mannered scum who have no regard for anyone but themselves.<br><br>With each new generation, good manners and consideration for others seems to be disappearing completely.Keithhttp://sandalsandsocks.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-4097031167242184102009-09-11T05:34:13.000-07:002009-09-11T05:34:13.000-07:00your aid is hotyour aid is hotJohn Doenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-41243183278919657942009-09-07T17:26:37.000-07:002009-09-07T17:26:37.000-07:00Fantastic blog this is. I know what exactly you me...Fantastic blog this is. I know what exactly you mean. I have cerebral palsy. I live in india, where NONE of the public amnesties or systems were built keeping invisible people like me in mind. Tell me all about it. I pay more income tax than most average earning folks do but the way i get treated, sometimes i just wanna get out and go somewhere else and never be back.Dilip Muralidaranhttp://www.dilipmuralidaran.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-34650864243063721932009-09-05T01:36:23.000-07:002009-09-05T01:36:23.000-07:00V.It is clear that you continue to misinterpret th...V.<br><br>It is clear that you continue to misinterpret the intended meaning of my post. Regardless of who is at fault for this misunderstanding, rest assured that I was not attempting to be directly helpful to Eva with my question, nor seeking to ask her to represent anyone other than herself. Hell, I wasn't even trying to 'ally' with her. I just wanted some information to satisfy myM.Anoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-67334600909136932372009-09-04T03:22:40.000-07:002009-09-04T03:22:40.000-07:00Eva,Great Blog! Keep up the work.Uncle DanEva,<br>Great Blog! Keep up the work.<br>Uncle DanDannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-85030204479151066202009-09-04T03:10:07.000-07:002009-09-04T03:10:07.000-07:00@ MAWhen Eva gets time or has the inclination to w...@ MA<br><br>When Eva gets time or has the inclination to weigh in on this, her insight's gonna outweigh mine, but I have two thoughts, one philosophical/political and one practical. I am a person with relative privileged status(not currently disabled, white,middle class, heterosexual,) so take that as you will.<br><br>Ally behavior--I'm seeing, thank goodness, a growing awareness in V.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-80274698869122099492009-09-03T16:54:13.000-07:002009-09-03T16:54:13.000-07:00Earlier this year I bought my husband, who is a fu...Earlier this year I bought my husband, who is a full-time wheelchair user, a camouflage t-shirt that says "You can see me". Because despite the fact that he's 6'10" tall (and thus a good 5'8" when seated), and the wheelchair is a monster, people completely ignore him, except to occasionally turn to me and say "Is he gonna be able to do X?"Annahttp://trouble.dreamwidth.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-27543486532362301492009-09-03T13:36:46.000-07:002009-09-03T13:36:46.000-07:00"And the ‘helpful’ suggestion about you findi..."And the ‘helpful’ suggestion about you finding a different way to communicate frosted me.<br><br>Probably because my default assumption is that somebody who has been dealing with her own disability, is a disability activist, and blogs about disability issues, has thought through the issues about her own communication systems more than some random commenter.<br>“If I were in your shoes…” M.Anoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-78069826487218699572009-09-03T12:23:26.000-07:002009-09-03T12:23:26.000-07:00Thank you for making this blog available. The vid...Thank you for making this blog available. The video aspect is so effective in underscoring your writing.<br><br>It's getting some notice in the larger blogosphere, too, which is how I got here. (Linked from somebody who linked from Bitch.)<br><br>Forgive me if I'm overstepping, but some of the comments here are also illustrating your point!<br><br>I can't keep myself from noticing V.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-21006040812692295132009-09-03T07:39:24.000-07:002009-09-03T07:39:24.000-07:00Hi, I just finished reading/watching your blogpa...Hi,<br> I just finished reading/watching your blogpage and want to tell you I think it's great. Working in retail i have had many opportunities to interact with the disabled, mostly with positive outcomes. I think that I do generally interact in a positive, open, adult way but occasionally there have been the odd awkward encounter. I think your blog can really help everyone see that there marknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-29937195463177154592009-09-03T05:12:01.000-07:002009-09-03T05:12:01.000-07:00"The funnier thing would be if people treated..."The funnier thing would be if people treated me like everyone else..."<br><br>They did.<br><br>It probably just didn't occur to them that you needed more room to pass a stray chair than most people do.<br><br>Great blog, BTW.Churchhttp://youtube.com/churchhatestuckernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-81808765351491643462009-09-03T04:31:17.000-07:002009-09-03T04:31:17.000-07:00This blog is fascinating. Not only does it give an...This blog is fascinating. Not only does it give an insight into a whole range of experiences that I just have never had to deal with, but it is also interesting in that on the Internet, your prose is indistinguishable from anyone else's, whether they can walk and talk or not, which makes it clear how lucid you are. I mean, I understand it intellectually, that cerebral palsy is solely a motor M.Anoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-42624112873395903682009-09-03T04:07:58.000-07:002009-09-03T04:07:58.000-07:00I think you might be able to chalk this one up to ...I think you might be able to chalk this one up to people trying not to stare; they know staring would be wrong, so they pretend not to notice you altogether.Disabled NYChttp://www.disablednyc.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-20229378991560240232009-09-03T03:07:10.000-07:002009-09-03T03:07:10.000-07:00I think this is awesome. As as abled person, I'...I think this is awesome. As as abled person, I'm sorry to say I am guilty of ALL of these things. Generally, I'm an "ignorer" but I'm sure there have even been times, when I didn't get up to move an obstacle for someone. But I generally ignore strangers, so I am genuinely trying to treat a disabled stranger the same as an abled stranger. And in defense of the average becanneliznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-42705100161191300702009-08-31T22:18:30.000-07:002009-08-31T22:18:30.000-07:00hey,well, i love your idea of showing people's...hey,<br>well, i love your idea of showing people's stupid behavior. My friend is also disabled and she told me a lot about how she is still treaten like a 10-year-old child (and she's 24 now!).<br><br>In Poland, where i live, disabled people are so much invisible - it's really difficult to see a person on a wheelchair!Magdanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-78496495068184778972009-08-31T12:48:44.000-07:002009-08-31T12:48:44.000-07:00you go girl :) its a very brave thing to do. its a...you go girl :) its a very brave thing to do. its also a great idea to educate people this wayEvenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-753188875798556432009-08-29T11:36:17.000-07:002009-08-29T11:36:17.000-07:00i think the perspective (literally) that you'r...i think the perspective (literally) that you're giving us here is great, I love where you have the camera. It can be frustrating for the viewer, particularly one who isn't used to being in a wheelchair, but that frustration is I think a good experience.Coryhttp://sexuality.about.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-78669964676598922402009-08-28T03:54:00.000-07:002009-08-28T03:54:00.000-07:00Hello Eva,I think this is a great idea! It would b...Hello Eva,<br>I think this is a great idea! <br>It would be very interesting to also see people acting the right way towards you, what do you think of it? <br>I'm sorry, I guess people talking in foreign languages sound rude sometimes - I'm from Germany and my english isn't perfect, so if it sounds rude or weird in some way, that's not what I'm trying to do!elenanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-71286044859139076142009-08-25T23:30:31.000-07:002009-08-25T23:30:31.000-07:00I must be getting old. I couldn't even see the...I must be getting old. I couldn't even see the girls: I thought it was an empty table and that the problem was that the management had thoughtlessly blocked the sidewalk. <br><br>I think I'd have been tempted to just drive right into them (oops, so sorry, my bad) and sloshed their drinks all over them.<br><br>SSSimply Suttonhttp://www.57suttonplace.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-77288692253108040622009-08-25T13:08:15.000-07:002009-08-25T13:08:15.000-07:00one time i had my mom's consin visit my univer...one time i had my mom's consin visit my university on the school festival day and we had so much fun, but then when we were taking off, there was a lady on the wheel chair (one of those high-tech ones) right behind us and me and my mom wondered what to do with the whole bunch of bikes parked and blocking our way forward in the sidewalk. but (i asked my mom afterwards and found out we had beenChico Masakhttp://chicomasak.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4620788145107183445.post-83257239482416272802009-08-25T11:21:26.000-07:002009-08-25T11:21:26.000-07:00It's giving that "private video" mes...It's giving that "private video" message...Carmenhttp://dimethirwen.livejournal.comnoreply@blogger.com